Sacred Communication in Marriage
Student: Could you say more about relationships and marriage? I’m planning on getting married.
Chögyam Trungpa: You shouldn’t expect anything at the beginning, but you should try to work together with your husband or wife. Basically speaking, marriage is a joint effort of trying to solve one another’s problems, and trying to make a creative world. That seems to be the basic point. As long as you are not immediately looking for an ideal, happy life, you can work with marriage. On the other hand, you shouldn’t just forget about the possibility of being overwhelmed by the idea of problems, either. It is a question of intelligence on both sides, and at the same time, there is a need for tremendous awareness and mindfulness. Each communication that takes place between the two of you has to be sacred in some sense. You should regard your partner as a spiritual friend of some type, and try to work along with that. When there is that kind of working basis taking place, I don’t see any particular problems.
The relationship might change anywhere: right at the beginning, or halfway through. It may not always be the same kind of relationship, because each one of you begins to grow up. So it might take a different shape; it might produce different kinds of phenomena. Nonetheless, as long as there is a dharmic connection, a spiritual connection, I don’t see any particular problems.
Book Review: EIGHT STEPS TO AN AUTHENTIC LIFE, Ancient Wisdom for Modern Times by Patricia Ullman
Vancouver Meditation Seminar: 1975
Three talks on meditation practice from February 1975
Tribute to Bill Scheffel
Our dear friend Bill Scheffel took his life on July 8, in Boulder, Colorado. This is such sad and disturbing news. Bill was a devoted student of the Vidyadhara, a wonderful poet and documentary filmmaker. He will be sorely missed.
Terry Mason (Zanto, Zonto)
Terry died on July 6, 2018 of complications related to lung cancer.
Tenga Rinpoche on Chogyam Trungpa
Tenga Rinpoche described the contributions of Chogyam Trungpa and the Shambhala community in hosting the Sixteenth Karmapa's tour of the West.
A Conversation with Her Eminence Jetsün Khandro Rinpoche
In this interview Her Eminence discusses: Buddhism in the West
My Love for Kunga Dawa
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Interview with Her Eminence Jetsün Kushok Chimey Luding Rinpoche
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Treasure Teachings from Ekajati
Trungpa Rinpoche received a major cycle of terma teachings from Ekajati
Changing our Relationship to Anxiety and Stress
Andrew Safer talks about his do-it-yourself guide.
Book Review: Contemplations on Anxiety, Stress and Mindfulness
Andrew Safer's Do-It Yourself Guide to Wellness
The wisdom flame sends out a brilliant light – May the goodness of Dorje Trollö be Present!
A Farewell and Profound Thank You to Kunga Dawa / Richard Arthure
Upon the Day of Sukhavati for Kunga Dawa
It soon became clear that Kunga was the first (prime and close) student.
Complete Openness
Rigdzin Shikpo talks about his training with Trungpa Rinpoche in the 1960s, beginning while Rinpoche was studying at Oxford.
Thrangu Rinpoche Remembers Trungpa Rinpoche
On Trungpa Rinpoche, the influences of Khenpo Gangsar, and some of the extraordinary aspects of the Vidyadhara's teachings
Cooking Indian Food at Kalapa Court
The first time I cooked Indian food at Kalapa Court in Boulder was in the summer of 1978. I was absorbed searching for some ingredients in the corner cupboard...
Compliments to the chef
In 1986 at the Vajradhatu Seminary, I signed on as the breakfast cook at Amakulo, the building used primarily as a family center. One day, the dinner cook became...
No Man’s Land
In No Man's Land, Robert Merchasin talks about an extraordinary day in September 1971, and reflects on the lasting impact the events of that day have had on his life.
We Can Run!
Karme Choling, 1978. We were all excited that Rinpoche was coming to give a teaching program. I was 22 years old. I’d been on the staff at KCL for...
As if by Accident
An Excerpt from Ellen's upcoming memoir: Buried Rivers: A Spiritual Journey into the Holocaust
Climbing a Staircase
During the Vidyadhara's last visit to England in 1986 I served many times as a kasung around Rinpoche's activities. As a long time city resident and car owner I...
In Accord With Our True Nature
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Gold Lake Oil
In this article, Tom Bell tells the story of the seeming rise and apparent fall of Gold Lake Oil.
Saga Dawa Sūtra Resounding
A Message from 84000, Translating the Words of the Buddha
Guru and Student in the Vajrayana
I have written the following in response to a number of requests, including some from the press, for my take on the present situation in the Rigpa Sangha over Sogyal Rinpoche’s behaviour.
1978: Children’s Day at the Court
On the first several Children's Days in Boulder...